Jeffrey Eugenides, from Middlesex
Just Like the First Time.
Honestly I think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity.
Instead of saying “I’m lazy,” saying “I’ve made a habit of not doing work unless it’s absolutely necessary.” Instead of saying “I’m a bad friend,” saying “I haven’t communicated as much as I should with the people I care about.”
By being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didn’t happen or wallowing in blaming yourself.
"Grief, I have learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go."
– Jamie Anderson
"What is grief if not love persevering?"
– WandaVision, Episode 8
"And when I turned to face grief, I saw it was just love in a heavy coat."
– Shannon Barry
really love that mary elizabeth frye poem that’s like do not stand at my grave and weep!! I am not there!!! I do not sleep!!! Do not stand at my grave and cry!!!! I am not there!!!! I did not die!!!
poems that give one the urge to touch the stove
On grief and loss
1. Glennon Doyle Melton, Love Warrior/ 2. Andrew Garfield interview/ 3. Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix/ 4. Jamie Anderson/ 5. Fleabag/ 6. Anne Carson, Glass, irony and god / 7. Brokeback Mountain/ 8. Jandy Nelson, The Sky Is Everywhere/ 9. John Banville, The Sea/ 10. Wandavision
Fic Recs Wrap Up - October 2022ᕐ ̆̈͜͡ ᕐ ોु✩°｡⋆
all in good time by saltwatergarden
Draco Malfoy’s life is boring and repetitive. He supposes he shouldn’t complain, since that’s better than sharing a house with Voldemort, or doing time in Azkaban.
When he gets trapped in a time loop, however, he is forced to confront the routine he has fixed for himself, and try to break out of it. It isn’t all bad, facing no consequences for his actions can be fun for a bit. But after he starts visiting the Auror Headquarters and having brief but remarkably pleasant conversations with one Auror Potter, he finally has the real motivation to break out of the time loop - something worth sticking around for. Rec Post
Harry Potter and the elusive day off by pleasebekidding @fuckyoupbk
Auror Potter needs a fucking break. He is wiped. He is exhausted. He probably didn’t intend to put himself into a magical coma but these things happen. And who cares, really? He is comfortable in a house where he has hidden away all the shit he can’t deal with.
Guaritore Christopher Black is an exceptional psychiatrist with a specialisation in sleep disorders. He is also Draco Malfoy in a Glamour.
Minister Hermione Granger knows the dangers and the complications, but she needs her best friend back. Rec Post
Practicing Liars by Lomonaaeren
Harry found out that he was Snape’s son two years ago, and he’s carefully concealed it. But now Snape is his Defense teacher, and Draco Malfoy is up to something, and Dumbledore is dying, and the final battle is coming up, and everything is getting very, very complicated. Rec Post
Yours to Keep by dracoismytrashson (JGogoboots) @dracoismytrashson
Some people think concepts like fate and destiny are romantic, but for Harry Potter, fate has always meant one thing: a swift kick in the arse. Why else would he cross an ocean to New York and enroll in Muggle university only to find Draco Malfoy living two doors down the hall? The universe and its twisted sense of humor can fuck right off.
A story in which two broken boys try to repair themselves halfway across the world. Too bad trauma doesn’t care how far you run. Rec Post
Higher and Higher (Temptation) by birdsofshore
Only Harry Potter could manage to put on a magical collar on impulse and find himself unable to take it off again. Now following Draco’s direct orders gives him intense pleasure, and Draco has a whole heap of troubles to deal with, not least the way Potter looks when the collar has him gasping with bliss. The whole situation would test the morals of a saint… and Draco’s no saint. Rec Post
The Liars Department by DorthyAnn @dorthyanndrarry
This is a story about Harry meeting up with Draco Malfoy four years after the war. And a story about Harry, well, not hating his job per say, but it’s not like he has much to compare it to and it seemed fine. His whole life seemed fine. Then Malfoy came along with and his flashy suits and fast car making everything seem dull in comparison, and Harry… Harry couldn’t just leave well enough alone. Rec Post
Euphoria by iero0 @iero0
Driven by trauma, Harry cuts ties with friends and family. From crowded nightclubs and enthralling live shows, Harry finds himself stumbling into a superficial world where he’s lonelier than ever. When even the constant blithe of substance-induced highs can’t prevent things from becoming what he ran away from, Draco Malfoy finds Harry. Draco, who’s wearing Muggle jeans and who’s listening to Muggle music and who suggests having a nice little chat on mephedrone. And whose nose crumples beautifully when he laughs.
Or: A story about Harry trying to cope with the help of drugs until he finds a new addiction. Draco likes to mend things.
H/D Wireless 2021 fic! Song: Phobia - Nothing But Thieves Rec Post
Lemon Colour, Honey Glow by trishjames @thusspoketrish
Over a series of unfortunate pub nights at the Leaky Cauldron, Draco Malfoy falls in love. A story about finding strength and forgiveness in unlikely places. Rec Post
Here are a few more fics I've read recently that y'all might like to check out as well! (ﾉ^ヮ^)ﾉ*:・ﾟ✧
When Trust and Truth Collide by silvergalaxy
Harry meets Draco for the first time in the employee break room on a boring Wednesday morning and they immediately hit it off. Chance encounters turn into dates, and dates turn into feelings.
Oh, yeah. Draco's also Harry's boss. Harry has no idea.
Debts and Desire by Craftybadger1234
Harry thinks they are dating. Draco thinks he's serving a life debt. Hilarity ensues.
Sweet is the fortune you give me by toutcequonveut @cequonveut
Draco has worked hard to overcome his post-war struggles and is now the successful and proud owner of his own chain of Potions shops. Who cares if he’s lonely? Certainly not him!
Then one day he comes across Harry Potter, Saviour of the Wizarding World, do-gooder to outshine all gooders and hero of the people—on the street without a Knut to his name.
What else can Draco do but take him in?
Harry Potter: DILF Hunter by Vukovich @vukovich
Auror Potter doesn't know what a DILF is, but if Malfoy's one, then Harry's gonna be the Ministry's best DILF Hunter ever!
Or, five times Harry heard Draco was a DILF, and one time he found it to be pleasantly true.
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I hope you enjoy these fics as much as I have!
Happy reading, y’all!
xoxo Carey (◍•ᴗ•◍)♡ ✧*💜💙💚💛❤💗💕💖